Self-image and Idealization

When we meet someone the first thing we worry about is how we are seen by others and the first thing we also do is to immediately perceive them as something. So in that first few seconds we are judged and judge at the same time.

In that first few seconds do we idealize someone just as they idealize us. As I have said before in a previous post, try hard to present yourself to others as you would like them to see you, so that idealization may not happen.

The reason why we should not idealize someone is that if we see them as a positive figure in our life and all of a sudden they do something bad, unnecessary disappointment may occur.

So remember do not judge a book by its cover, spend sometime with it to understand its content and that we can not control others but only ourselves.

So in closing if you do not wish to be judge then do not judge them.