Sorry I won't apologize anymore

There is nothing wrong about apologizing for what you did wrong, but there is everything wrong about apolgizing for things you did not do wrong.

The more you apologize for a right action the more you are going to loose confidence in yourself. The more other are going to see you as with no confidence, and the more you will be use as a doormat by them.

If however you do an action, that which you are proud of but which other simply do not like, do not apologize for that action but rather just let it be, and you will be more assertive with yourself and everyone else.

Contribution to the needy.

I been touching on the subject of needs and wants and now want to come back to expand on it some more.

Looking inward you can find what you need, but looking outward what is it that one can offer?

I thought about this for a long time and realize that what I can offer to others is not money, or gifts but rather the gift of me. I can offer myself to society if the needs ever occur, my life, my time, my energy, my thoughts and my love.

So if you ever thought about how you can help your own society, perhaps you should look into what you as a person can offer and not what you as a resource can do.

Living life to the max

The way I see it your life is either rule by fate or freewill.

If it is rule by fate, then everything you do does not matter and it will turn out the way it will anyway, so might as well live it to the max and not waste what time you have.

If it is rule by freewill, then everything is left to chance and therefore there is a 50/50 chance that something bad or dire may happen to you the very next day. So live it to the max as if it were your last, because if everything is up to chance then it might as well be.

So just live life not by rules or convention but how you want to, as no matter what you do you can not control how it will end anyway.

The most important things in life

In life it is important to find what it is that we mind the most important things to us in order to find satisfaction and contentment. When I say the most important things in life I do not mean the most important for living, but the most important things to have a good life.

For me the most important things in having a good life is through companionship and to have someone to talk to, something which I have found up to a degree. When you have identify what that thing is that you need to live a good life, you will no longer feel wanting or searching for something more.

But how do you find out what it is that is important to us. Think of yourself as an island, or someone with utterly nothing bereft of everything. In your mind take away from yourself friends, family, houses, love, our occupation, clothes on your back and what you are left with is just ultimately you. Only then can you find what it is that you are seeking in your life. I am not asking you to discard all the things you have literally but to spiritually do so. But I do believe when a man has nothing, to be bereft of riches and fame, and those material things that clouds the mind, will he be able to find his own contentment.

In summation I will say this, the more you have, the more you want but the less you have, the less you need.

There is always light at the end of the tunnel....

No matter how bad life is going for us at the moment, we must always remember that there is light at the end of the tunnel...

Drug addiction pt.2 - Plans for overcoming addictive behaviour

The following list of action plans is taken from the book "Preach My Gospel", published by the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. "Preach My Gospel" is a manual designed to help full-time missionaries of the church, as well as all members of the church, help others by reaching out and sharing the gospel.

In chapter 10, pp 189, we read a list of ways to help people overcome addictive behaviours. These ideas can help those who are suffering from drug addiction, such as I have mentioned in a previous post, or they can help anyone overcome any sort of addictive behaviour. Whether you are religious or not, I know these action plans will help you or people you know overcome addictive behaviour:

(People) may ask what they can do ot overcome an addiction... The following suggestions may be helpful:

* Have them outline the times, places, and people that contribute to the behaviour. Then discuss the list with a spouse, bishop, ward missionary or trusted friend. Talk about what they need to do to change or a avoid the items on the list.

* Have them write down what the behavioiur is causing them to miss now and, if not corrected, what it will cause them to miss in the future.

* Have them write down different things they can do to avoid or discourage inapporpriate behaviour This may include talking to one's spouse, calling the bishop or a friend for support, exercising, and any other activity that helps them avoid temptation

(Someone once said to me that the only way to break a bad habit is to replace it with a good one. This statement rings truth in the third bullet point, in that keeping your mind occupied doing something else can help you change addictive behaviour).

* Encourage them to reglarly pray, study the scriptures, listen to uplifting music, and read wholesome books....

* ...Encourage them to attend an apporopriate support group or obtain professional help....
*... Encourage them to never give up!

Tomorrow is another day...