Do not let love get in the way of love.

If you love something do not let fear of loosing that love be the barrier to showing love.

Doing so would just hinder your ability to love and ruin whatever love may come your way.

Using Technology..... In Moderation

Progress

Keep Your Eye on the Goalposts...

Realize what it is you wish to achieve in life, and never lose sight of that goal. Always keep your eye on the goalposts....

Running on Automatic

Ever feel as if you are nothing but an automaton, going by task as if they are natural path of life?

Sometimes it is good that you are able to go through menial task as if by instinct, because you don't have to think about it.

But what if you just do things by automatic without noticing it, do you not then become nothing more than a machine?

Imagine you going through life without noticing a single thing, and before you know it you would be dead.

So take a little time off from running on automatic and be conscious about your task, or mix it up now and again so that you can spot the small wonders or the big miracles in life before its too late.

No Shame in Asking For Help

I chose this picture, because the trees remind me of people who have a strong character, standing tall against all odds. I found this quote while I was searching for the quote on healthy eating.

It is important to ask for help when you need it. Never think that you have to carry your burdens by yourself. The strongest people are the ones who are humble enough to realize that they cannot do it all on their own, and they need support and advice from others.

May we all learn to recognize that help is always just around the corner from us...

Important Health Message

I was trying to look for something "witty" for this picture. Instead, I found this profound quote from Benjamin Disraeli. It is true that when we look after our bodies and eat healthily, do plenty of exercise and get enough rest, we truly do feel happier.

Music

Enjoy Life

How Friendships begin...

Another commentary on Friendship...

Lean On Me...

L.O.V.E.

Never Give Up

Be Industrious

Express Yourself

Part of being true to yourself is having the courage to say what is on your mind, without offending or hurting anyone. There is a certain amount of tact that is involved in expressing your opinions with other people. Speaking with others the way you would like to be spoken to is the first step of honest communication. When you express yourself in a way that shows respect not only to the other person, but also to yourself, you gain more appreciation from your colleagues, and your own self-worth will increase.

Overall, expressing oneself is a skill that we can all improve and work on.

Be kind. Unwind...

.............. litterally

i can turn myself inside out and back again
i can mimick a darker soul within myself
i have two faces with one voice
with this voice i speak two minds
i am not me but always am
i see myself through seperate eyes
a temporary change of pace
unwelcome frame of thoughts
my venom stings with no lasting effect
it will be over soon....

for the men who read this an isight into the hormones that is womens monthly burden

SMILE! (again)

TEAMWORK

On touching lives...

This quote, like most others I have found, I found through thinkexist.com. I like the question it poses on each one of us: Are we a big heal, or a great soul?

People enter our lives for a reason. Whether we were sent to help them or they were sent to help you, you and the people you associate/have associated with have left a lasting impression on each other, whether you like it or not. And just as easily as people can enter our lives, they can also exit from them just as easily, taking with them the impression they have made about you from your words and actions.

Think about the social interactions you have had in the past week, be they with old/new friends, close relatives, or even complete strangers. What would these people say about you, if they were ever asked what their impression has been of you this past week? What would they say about you when it is your turn to eventually exit from their lives? Would they say that you had been a positive influence on their lives? That you have enriched their lives because of your kindness and charity? That it has been truly a blessing to have ever associated with you? That you have left such an admirable impression upon their minds that they want to keep you in their memory forever? Likewise, could you say the same for the people you had associated with during the week?

Another important question this quote raises is whether we spend too much time focusing on the people who have "dug their heals" into our lives, or the "great souls" who have entered into our lives at the time when we needed them most? It is better to fill our minds with precious memories of these "great souls", who have shown they are true friends by their words and deeds, than to decay our minds with memories of the "heal-diggers", who are really not worth remembering.

It is true that we, as humans, are not perfect, and we are bound to unintentionally leave a bad impression on people's lives at some stage. All we can do is try and repair the damage that has been caused by us, be they intentional or unintentional, and strive to work to be a positive influence in people's lives.

On Racial Tolerance and Living in Harmony with Each Other...

I decided to upload this picture in view of certain current events that have been happening in my country at the moment.

One of the things I simply cannot understand is the reasoning behind someone not liking someone else, just because of the colour of their skin. It never made any sense to me as a kid. It never makes sense to me now. It doesn't make sense to me that this kind of nonsense is still going on in the world, especially seeing as the world is becoming more unified through the advantages of modern technology.

Instead of negatively judging racial and cultural differences, why can't we all embrace them and try to understand each other? Why do people choose to remain in a state of ignorance? We will be seeing more and more of the younger generation interacting with other people from around the world, working together for the greater good, so these people who choose to remain in that state had better "get with the program".

I pray and hope that my generation and future generations after me can continue to learn from the mistakes of the past and look to the future, with a firm desire to understand and help each other....

Standing for Something...

In a world where moral values are constantly being compromised, we must stand up for what is right and true, regardless of what society may think of us...

extraxting thoughts

A word on the tip of my tounge
A person on the edge of your thoughts
A voice with no recognition
A emptiness i can't fill
A hollow feeling resenates
With problems i can never fix
Time heals no wounds
It surrenders them to thoughts
thoughts that reveberate

I will never escape

Deifying the World

The power of human beliefs is a powerful thing, by believing something individually it may not come true but by unitedly believing in somethings it can come true.

So do not worship anything lest you trap them into a role they do not wish to take, and trap yourself in a role you do not wish upon yourself.

Be careful what you wish for

Never ever wish upon a star or on anything else at all for the case that you might actually get it.

And when you do get it you might not like it.

Everyone is a hero in their own story

But reality is in this world everyone is potentially a hero, and potentially a villian.

If you let negative feelings such as depression, laziness, hatred, jealousy, greed consumes you then you will become the very thing that you fear, a dark villian.

But if you let those negative feelings dissipate away you will become free and light in your heart, and as such becomes a hero of the light in this story.

So turn away from those negative feelings, for they are not real, all they are is illusions created by the mind, and become one with the light and become the greatest heroes of all.

Too good to be true?

There is no such thing.

There is only good, more good and even more good.

So when someone says that things are too good to be true, they just don't believe good things exist.

Trust in those you help for they will help you

If you help someone sincerely and unconditionally then they shall see the love that you share toward them and in return they will help you.

Whether they help you or not, depends on you.

But if they don't help you, then you must help yourself, never ever give up, never stop the fight. Be one with light for all there is, is light.

Returning to the source of all things.

Some people believe that Life and Death are polarity between light and darkness. But in reality life and death are both light. When you die there is life again, it is a brief intermission before your next life begins, so death is merely a process and all is actually light.

The source of all things is life, and since everything is light then the source of all things must be light. Do not worry for all is light in the end.

The voices inside your head

The voices inside your head, if you hear them and its not you then it is most likely your pent up fear, anguish, sadness, and worries, all roll up into one and manifest themselves as different persona.

There are no other voices inside your head except your own. Remember this well, for the more you feed these personas the more they exist, if you believe in only yourself and not them then all there is will be just you inside your own head.

The greatest lie of all

The greatest lie of all is that darkness exist.

In truth darkness only exist when we acknowledge it, when we fear it, when we trust in it. The bigger the darkness the more it will consume you.

But if you trust within the light and not the darkness then you will be the light. Not the light within the darkness but the light within the light.

All is light in the end, do not fear it for it will bring only darkness.

Love, peace, and unity is nothing to be afraid of. It is where we all need to be.

The 3 Rules of Living a Successful Life

1. Fight for life
2. Take responsibilities for your action
3. Never ever give up

Feeling incomplete

My mind ponders the what ifs in life, how can i be so content, then an overwhelming feeling that there is something more out there lets me question wether my need to slow down has let me settle for less? Everything i have been desiring, i am not desiring anymore, and i feel like somethings missing, a hole that makes me want to cry, emotional and now angry at the people around me, because they aren't the people i saw for me.. what i want to be there isn't. But it was, how can i get that feeling back? the lust that drove my passion for everything i love. I have done this so many times in my life, and the stupidity out weighs the sensabilty, but my priorities are not about me anymore i have more to think about, and i am lucky, i have something very special. Is this a passing feeling something that will go away with time? Or is it my inner being telling me to keep looking? questioning what i thought i had found, what if i am one of these people that can never be content with what i've got, am i always looking for the next best thing?

The problem between freewill and destiny.

Each one of us has the freewill to make whatever choices we want. But destiny rules that we let go of control of ourselves and let the universe control us. Two differing viewpoints.

The solution as I see it is not to push away destiny and accept freewill nor accept destiny and pushh away freewill but rather to have freewill and bring inward destiny. To let go of control and to make the choices that we see fit and follow our own destiny.

THE GAME

No matter how young or how old we are, the GAME has been inprinted in our breed, i once was of the opinion that it was a passing phase, a struggle for power in the period of definment in our lives. But the GAME is in our very essence, the mentality that defines us as woman. If you are a woman that does not believe your involved your lying to yourself. The GAME in its true form is a fight to wear the pants in ones relationship, the one with the control, the ability to define it and steer the direction of it. Some woman are more cunning then other therfor less obvious. The to and frowing, in a relationship, out of it, in it again, the "you never do anything for me", "i never ask you for anything", "your not committing to this relationship", "why aren't we getting married""we don't spend enough time together".

If you have seen it, heard it, if you bare witness to it.. you have just witnessed the GAME you are all involved

Racism, Sexism, and Homophobia

These three things comes from intolerance of other's differences, our own fears, and inability to understand others which in turn breeds hatred.

However the hatred is not enacted inward but rather outward. More often than not the reason we dislike another is because they remind us of what we see in ourselves. So remember when we discriminate against them we are merely discriminating against ourselves.

In truth there is really no difference in us all. All there is just differing opinions, cultures, races, genders, and sexual preferences.

How would you yourself feel if others push you away just because of the color of your eyes?

Tolerance

When we see things that we do not agree with it makes us feel negative and can be hurt by it. But if we were to act on it by being aggressive, and or violent toward those who do not agree with, that would just show us in a bad light.

Is it not much better to turn away from it and just move on. Same goes with other being intolerant toward us, would it not be better to turn the other cheek and walk away?

Just because they are intolerant toward us, it does not do any good for us to be intolerant toward them also.

The 3 Rules of Being

1. Calm your spirit
2. Be yourself
3. live free

The 5 Precepts of Truth and Greater Understanding

1. Speak your feelings
2. Search your thoughts
3. Be above no one
4. Be responsible for who you are.
5. Take it as it comes

The 8 Precepts of Universal Love

I like to think in a world of freewill and destiny we could find a balance and in finding the balance we must do this:

1. Do anything you like as long as it harm none.
2. Feel pride in who you are, what you can do, and can not do but humble yourself to all things
3. Be responsible for what you have received and those you have received it from
4. Find pleasure in the food you take but have it in moderation
5. Desire of the body is not wrong but only do so toward others who does it of their own freewill
6. Too much hardwork can lead to tired body, so relax once in a while. Too much relaxation you regress in health so work a little, find moderation between relaxation and hardship.
7. If you see others as better than you, then work to be better than them in your own eyes
8. Vent your anger, and release your feelings so that you do not fester your emotional wounds and be even more wounded

think twice

I am tiring of watching the news, only to feel less respect for the media, there is a point that they have crossed between telling us what we need to know, and invading poeples privacy to interupting our legal processes, i feel sorry for the footballers, or sports people that are unfairly persecuted. By being in the public eye, they're exposed, and for the media to highlight every mistake on national tv takes away the right that we all have to learn from our mistakes, and deal the problems we have, privatly. And you may notice the story is always one sided, you here from the victim, and as the victim is always bias and never admitting of fault. You hear these story about grandmothers being ripped off by their family, but as we don't know the people involved we form a view not based on the facts for all we know this old woman used her possestions as some sort of bribary, and when she didn't get what she wanted she cried wolf.. but as i said we don't know the full story so we can't judge and the media should not be putting foward this pettiness.. and that is a mild example of what i am talking about. Recently in queensland we had a pedefile that was on trial which was dismissed due to there being to much publicity for him to recieve a fair trial, and instead of toning down the hype so we could jaol him, the media staked out his house and was the headlining story for a couple of weeks, because it got ratings, so when did the news and journalism become more important that protecting society from the filth. I do empathize with australian swimmer Nick Darcy who missed out on the 2008 olympics because of a drunken brawl between him and another swimmer, I in now way condone what he did, but he has paid his dues more than most kids his age in simular posistion would've had to, and will be paying for it for years, he will forever be known as the guy that broke a team members jaw, but for one second think, what did it take to enable him to do what he did, most people don't go that nuts for no reason but we don't hear about that so much, i don't believe either party was innocent and the others bad actions should have been highlighted as well to increase awareness of alcohole abuse.. And then we have what A-List Celebs have to deal with, tabloids,verman, they drive people to breakdowns then profit from there pain.. poor britany.. hehe he... put yourself in their posistion not one solitary moment, no precious memories of your own, everything shared with everyone else...

Although i don't think anyone will be able to do anything, and it's garunteed to get worse, i just want people to think twice before forming an opinion, on bias facts. These are poeple too, not just celebraties some of them quite young growing up and making mistakes, as every person does..

Find your own words

When all is lost and all seems dark.

Find your own words that comes from the heart, and its light will shine through.

When your words come from the heart, it can only be true, so what is true can not possibly be wrong.

Let your heart flow and the words will come to you.

Free Will

Okay, I feel like some people try so hard to be something that is just not worth being, they dress below their potential, reveal way to much, follow the norm, and feel what they're told to feel, we are living in a world of drones, have a point of view, SPEAK FOR YOURSELF, voice your opinions, don't stand in the background, hoping for your moment, someone to care about what you think, make them care, or at least make them notice. we need options in life, the whole point of free will, to be free to think, feel and beleive what we want. To be supressed to think what people want us to think takes away the freedom that our country is lucky to possess..

Harmony Day and Returning to Child-like Innocence

Harmony Day is celebrated on the 21 March and coincides with the U.N.'s International Day for the Elimination of Racial Discrimination (see http://www.racismnoway.com.au/classroom/factsheets/17.html. It is a day where we celebrate cultural diversity and tolerance towards all races.

On Thursday, I was shopping at my local shopping centre when I noticed a display that the Prep kids of one of the local schools I used to work at had made. The kids were learning all about Harmony Day, and they had to write down and draw what the word "harmony" meant to them. The things that the children wrote really touched me:

Harmony is playing with my brother...

Harmony is sharing my toys...

Harmony is hugging my mum...

Harmony is being kind...

Many thoughts came into my mind as I was reading these words. Initially, I thought about the times when I was working there, and the joy I felt working with the children. Then I thought about the innocent and kind nature that most children possess. What if these children were able to harness this nature and take it with them for the rest of their lives?

Our society often jokes about how kids can be little terrors sometimes. But isn't it in reality the adults who become the monsters by shedding off the skin of child-like innocence? Aren't we the ones who are reminded by children the importance of getting along with one another? Why do we find it so hard to forgive one another and get along with each other, while children seem to be able to do this quite easily? What is this "secret" to child-like innocence that we seem to have forgotten long ago?

I am grateful to these children for teaching me through their words and their drawings how easy it really can be to live in harmony. I hope to always remember the lesson they have taught me.

Be careful with your words

Leave past pains behind

The past precedes the present, therefore yes we can indeed learn from our mistake. But leave all the negative behind you, such as pain, hurt and burdens.

All those don't matter.

All it does is make you depress, dark, and sullen.

If we live in the present without all those things, every new day can only be a pleasant day.

never say never

I have always wanted big things in life.. and i will never give up i will achieve them.. I have always felt inhibited by others, the negativity others possess can weigh you down, as they lack the imagination to think for themselves, when i was in high school i wanted to go to NIDA i wanted to perform, due to my own mistakes that became un achievable, then i fell into signwriting, so i decided that i want to own a business, one that has a new perspective to the market, offer something the others lack, combine all areas of my industry, and this idea has not changed, for over five years and every step i take no matter how slowly i am getting closer and closer, my boss's said i was dreaming, when i said i am going to be a millionare they laughed at me, made jokes about it.. and after stewing in this, i realised it is their own pessemism, that will keep them in a simple life with simple things,nothing truely exciting to leave their mark on the world.. i intend to be noticed.. i intend to leave a mark.. if you beleive in yourself you can do anything.. i believe that.. if i don't become a millionare i won't worry as long as i aheive my goal...

never hold me back

I am tired of being overlooked, tired of trying so hard and pushing myself, and not acheiveing what i wanted to acheive, and not being appreciated for the time i put in, i hate being at home i hate being useless i hate having to try so hard, i communicate with a brick wall and wonder why im not getting any answers, i get so angry i just want to be treated with respect, DON'T DEPRIVE ME OF MY DIGNITY, I am in no way stupid, i can be a twit sometimes but who can't, i tend to not think before i talk, which cause me to say some not so thought out comments, but i am not an idiot. I hate being judged by people that are in no posistion to judge me, people who stopped caring about where their life takes them, they don't try to improve themselves in any way, and float along in life.. who are you to judge, i work hard, now that i can't work temporarily, i work hard at being mom, and wanting to go back to work i will be working hard to be employable improving my qualifications.. i never stop doing.. i am a good person, that deserves the respect of the people around me. i hate being so tired, and i hate that i have to it on my own. but i still do it, i get up everyday and i keep going, i don't give up, perseverance is the only thing i can hold onto, if i keep going something has got to get better..
but never shoot me down hold me back, there is something big waiting for me.. and i will get there with or without you..

Overcoming negativity

In we were to use the theory of mathematics, logic, and reasoning in handling negativity we would face it with more negativity. By way of an eye for an eye. But this beget nothing except more hurt and more pain. If they take our eye and we take their eye, eventually both of us will be blind.

However if we do not do this but show negativity with positivity, turn them the other cheek. Overcoming those negativity with kindness, your own personal will, casting away your own fear and pushing aside any burden. Then what we overcome can only become our own positive.

Respect for the loser

When it comes to a situation where there is a winner and a looser. It is ok to show that you have fun, taking away the gloating and snide remarks. But really there is no need for soft words to the looser of the game. That will just rub it in that they did not win and they have to say yes you have won.

Sometimes it is better to leave it at that and move on.

Cyber Bullying in the Flickr World pt. 3 - What makes a Cyber Bully

Today I wanted to research some of the characteristics of a cyber bully, in order to try and explain why I had labelled “our friend” as a cyber bully.

Most of the online articles I had found were aimed mainly at teenagers and parents of teenagers, in order to help families understand what cyber bullying is and how to prevent it. It would appear from what I researched that cyber bullying is happening more commonly amongst the young people; the case of my Flickr friend and his story of victimization appears to be only a very rare case of cyber bullying amongst adults. However, I feel that the same tactics that cyber bullies use, no matter what the age group, are the same.

First of all, I would like to provide the definition of what cyber bullying is, taken from the Australian “Bullying no way” website:

“Bullying is usually defined as any offensive or aggressive behaviour directed at another person, repeated over time. It may be physical, emotional or social.

Cyber bullying, as it has become known, includes text or images posted on personal websites or transmitted via email or cell phones....

...Sometimes cyber bullying happens as a result of a relationship break up. It can also be based on fear or prejudice. And sometimes, some young people just think it is a “fun game”.

What are some of the motivations behind cyber bullying?

Cyber bullies
“are often motivated by anger, revenge or frustration. Sometimes they do it for entertainment or because they are bored and have too much time on their hands and too many tech toys available to them. Many do it for laughs or to get a reaction. Some do it by accident, and either send a message to the wrong recipient or didn't think before they did something.”
(taken from www.stopcyberbullying.org)

How is cyber bullying different from face-to-face or playground bullying?


“Because their motives differ, the solutions and responses to each type of cyberbullying incident has to differ too. Unfortunately, there is no "one size fits all" when cyberbullying is concerned. Only two of the types of cyberbullies have something in common with the traditional schoolyard bully. Experts who understand schoolyard bullying often misunderstand cyberbullying, thinking it is just another method of bullying. But the motives and the nature of cybercommunications, as well as the demographic and profile of a cyberbully differ from their offline counterpart.”
(taken from www.stopcyberbullying.org)


The “Bullying No Way” website also verifies this, in that it explains that some of the cyber bullies are victims themselves of playground bullying; they use cyber bullying as a means of retalliation to what they have experienced.

The “Stop Cyber Bullying” website categorizes individual cyber bullies into four “types”: The “Vengeful Angel”, the “Power Hungry” (or “Revenge of the Nerds”), the “Mean Girls, and the “Inadvertent Cyber Bully” (or “Because I can”)

*The Vengeful Angel: Does not see himself/herself as a bully. Rather, they see themselves trying to right a wrong. Often will Vengeful Angel cases occur when one of the cyber bully's friends are being victimized by another cyber bully, and they write hateful things back about the other cyber bully, justifying to himself/herself that the other cyber bully “deserves” it.

*The Power Hungry (or “Revenge of the Nerds”): These are usually victims of playground bullying themselves, often females (or males who are not physically intimidating in build),who are not considered by their peers as “cool” or “popular”. They use cyber bullying as a means to try and embarrass or frighten their bigger, more socially acceptable peers.

*The Mean Girls: As the title suggests, almost all of the kinds of cyber bullies who fit into this category are female. They are classified as “the most immature of all cyberbullying types” (taken from www.stopcyberbullying.org) They write mean stuff about other girls (and sometimes boys) in order to attract more attention to themselves and to uphold their so-called “self-esteem”. Usually, this type of cyber bullying dies when enough people choose to ignore their antics. They only keep writing if they keep getting the publicity.

*The Inadvertant Cyber Bully (or “Because I can”): These types of bullies, unlike the Power Hungry or “Revenge of the Nerds” kind, often write stuff to people without taking time to think about what they are writing first, or without reflecting on the possible consequences of their actions. They often abuse people in this manner in response to something they don't agree with online, or from an email or other form of communication sent to them.

I would also like to add from my friend's experience that sometimes the cyber bully will use reverse psychology on the victims to show that the nasty things written have been true, and that the bully is only pointing this out for the victim's own good. Our perpetrator and his accomplice, when they first attacked my friend's religion, pointed out to him his lack of ability to communicate effectively in English ,so as to be able to back up his reasons fairly why he was a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. He was accused of getting the missionaries to write the answers to the questions they proposed to him, when the fact was he copied and pasted his answers from the official church website (www.lds.org) whenever he found it hard to express adequately his thoughts and feelings. They in turn used this in effect to communicate to my friend: “You see? You cannot tell me yourself why what you believe is true, and if you can't personally back up your claims, how can your church be true? It can't be, if you are unable to express yourself”.....

And in the case of JJ's threats to sue me for defamation: From my readings from this morning, it would seem that JJ, by his threat to sue me, is trying to paint me as the “vengeful angel”, because I am getting involved and writing “nasty” comments about him to ruin his reputation, because of what he had done to my friend. The reality is that what I had written was simply the truth, and that he himself is the “vengeful angel” by trying to justify his actions and defending himself against an “injustice”.

It is unfortunately sad to say that my friend who was victimized ended up becoming an “inadvertant cyber bully” towards the end, according to the definition given above. However, the perpetrator who drove him to this point had become a cyber bully long before my friend eventually stooped down to this level. In the course of approximately 8 months, my friend had to endure endless taunts and abuse from JJ, categorizing his actions (according to the “Bullying No Way” website) as an act of cyber bullying. His original motivations for bullying my friend was to “prove” to him that he was in the wrong religion, and made fun of his new found belief. When he got tired of that, he decided to make fun of his English and even his sexuality, just to get a reaction from my friend. This behaviour matches the description of the different motivations mentioned in the “Stop Cyber Bullying” website. And eventually, JJ. became a “Vengeful Angel”, in that he posted Bob's not-so nice retaliation in an attempt to make himself look like he was the “victim”, and that by posting this email was trying to correct the “injustice” that had befallen him. This, as well as many other evidences back up my theory that JJ. can be categorized as a cyber bully.

References:

http://www.bullyingnoway.com.au/

http://bullyingnoway.com.au/talkout/spotlight/cyberBullyingIs.shtml

http://bullyingnoway.com.au/talkout/spotlight/cyberBullyingTechnology.shtml

http://bullyingnoway.com.au/talkout/spotlight/cyberBullyingConsequences.shtml

http://bullyingnoway.com.au/talkout/spotlight/cyberBullyingPrevention.shtml

http://www.stopcyberbullying.org/

http://www.stopcyberbullying.org/parents/howdoyouhandleacyberbully.html

Other useful articles to help you understand cyber bullying:

http://www.smh.com.au/news/technology/cyber-intimidation-and-the-art-of-bullying/2007/11/18/1195321595404.html

http://www.cybersmartkids.com.au/cyberbullying.htm

http://www.dosomething.org/tipsandtools/11-facts-about-cyber-bullying

http://www.zimbio.com/How+to+stop+cyberbullies/articles/7/The+Facts+on+Cyber+Bullying

http://sixtyminutes.ninemsn.com.au/article.aspx?id=444908

http://www.readersdigest.com.au/life/cyberbullies/article52026.html

http://eprints.qut.edu.au/1925/1/1925.pdf

Cyber Bullying in the Flickr World pt. 2

It would seem that I had shaken up a few things in the Flickr World since I wrote my article on Cyber Bullying, and used the real life example of my friend who was cyber-bullied by a Flickr member.

It would appear that the person who I wrote the article on was not prepared to give in that easily. He had made himself become an Admin of the Christianity Discussion Group, deleted my post, closed off his own post so that nobody could protest, and sent a threatening message to me via my friend who was the victim of the bullying, that if I did not delete every single post I had made in all of the discussion groups I had made mention of his name, he was going to sue me for defamation:

"Your contact whom you got to weasel information out of me has messed up badly. By writing that article on various groups he has breached Australian Defamation Law. That is serious and has exposed himself to prosecution under Australian law.
You would be advised to tell him to either delete all posts or remove all reference to me as otherwise I will consider legal action against him as a private individual. Such action will be succesful as the breach is real. Also by placing multiple copies of the article on various groups he exposes himself to secondary charges.
His article is an actual, serious and provable breach of Law so to avoid costly legal and personal proceedings I would urge you to advise him to delete or amend all articles to remove both my name plus all reference to me at his earliest convenience. That may work in his favour to an extent.
He may also wish to obtain a second legal opinion which will only verify the stupidity of his foolish actions which were on your behalf. We all know that when such proceedings do eventuate that neither you or his religious organization will support him.
He has also breached the Yahoo TOS by using their forums to defame and I will refer that to my contacts at Yahoo for their information.
Vincent, never get someone else to do your dirty work for you as he is the one who faces a high chance of legal proceedings. We detected virtually right from the start he was acting on your behalf and fed him "information" and "carrots" as stated previously." (11 April 2009)

Naturally, I was a bit worried about this, and read everything I could about the defamation laws in Australia. This is what I found out:

The Defamation laws of Australia define a defamation offence as an accusation or statement, either written or verbal, about a person, that would cause others to to either hate, despise or be treat that person badly. A defamation offence can be established if:

* The accusation was made to a third party
* Identifies the person by name or reference and
* Contains a clear defamatory statement.

According to this definition, I am liable and could be found guilty in a court of law, should this man decide to carry out his threat. However...

Defences against such a law suit can be the following:

* Fair Comment (if it is an expression of an honestly held opinion or a criticism on a subject matter of public interest)
* Truth/Justification
* You had a duty to provide information

Supposing this man were to carry out his threat against me, I would be able to defend myself on the grounds that what I wrote was the truth, and that I had a duty to warn other people of this man and his motivations, because if he can get away from doing it to one person, he could try and do it again to someone else, and I did not want anybody to suffer the same way my friend had suffered. Plus, with all of the information I had gathered, I could easily say that under the definition of the Australian Defamation laws, this man himself has committed offence, in that he publicly produced an email written by my friend to third party members, in the attempt of ruining his reputation...

...However, because the Australian Government is constantly revising Australian Defamation Law, especially with regarding online claims, if this man were to pursue this further, it could go either way for me. I could either be found in the clear, based on the evidence I would be presenting in my defence, or I would have to either pay a fine or serve time in jail. I understand that the laws of this country are not perfect, but if these laws are able to be twisted in such a way as to protect the very perpetrators that that these laws are crying out against, what point is there for having these laws to begin with?

In any event, I am prepared for whatever this man decides on doing, but should anything happen to me, just know that there are loop holes in the system that need to be fixed, that the fight against cyber bullying is real and that it in order to combat and successfully defeat cyber bullying, we MUST be able to do this collectively, not individually. It must be confronted head-on in a group effort....

References:

http://www.efa.org.au/Issues/Censor/defamation.html

http://www.artslaw.com.au/LegalInformation/Defamation/DefamationLawsAfterJan06.asp

http://www.uow.edu.au/arts/sts/bmartin/dissent/documents/defamation.html

Cyber Bullying in the Fickr World pt. 1

(The following names have been changed in order to secure the safety and integrity of this blog page)

A dear friend of mine, who used to be a member of Flickr, ended up deleting his account a while back, because he had become a victim of cyber-bullying.

JJ, the perpetrater, and his accomplice, SS, took great extremes to ridicule and mock Bob from everything ranging from his religious status, to his faulty English. When things got so bad that Bob eventually lashed back, JJ had posted the very last email that he had received from Vincent in the Christianity Discussion Group, and claimed that Bob was the one who was doing the cyber-bullying, and slandered his name there.

Upon doing some detective work, I finally found out the truth and brought it to light. You might want to read what I posted in the Christianity Discussion Group before I left:

I have been thinking long and hard about what I wish to write here, but I can no longer withold from this group what I already know, what I have just recently discovered, and while I can personally roll taunts towards me off my shoulder, I simply CANNOT stand and watch innocent people suffer while their names are being slandered with false accusations. The current admin might probably delete this thread and kick me out of the group for exposing this, but I don't care, because copies of this will be circulating in all other groups I am a member of (with the admins' permission), and I will be quitting this group before anybody does anything to me anyway.

You will remember that three weeks ago, a certain JJ had attempted to reveal to us the “truth” about Bob. JJ would have us think that he is the “victim”, that he is the one who is being abused by Bob. Recent evidence that I have collected have revealed otherwise. What JJ has deliberately failed to tell everybody in the group is what HE has done to drive Bob to this level. I intend on bringing this to light, based on evidence that I have gathered both from JJ and from Bob himself.

Upon reading about Bob's latest email that was posted in this group, I took it really hard. I simply did not want to believe that Bob was a cyber-bully who liked to play pranks on other people. So I decided to investigate as to what would have driven Bob to write such a thing and why he did it. I decided to email JJ personally, asking further about his dealings with Vincent, so that I could get a better picture of Bob's AND JJ's motivations. JJ was only too eager to supply me with information, provided that I didn't tell anybody (especially Bob) what I was up to. He ended up sending me various emails during the course of the three weeks since we were in touch, providing me with other “aliases” that Bob had supposedly set up, along with previous posts that he had sent on Flickr, as well as one about Bob's syntax and grammatical errors (well, English IS his second language after all). Some of the information he sent was useful, but a LOT of it was not, and upon asking JJ if he had any other abusive emails received from Vincent on hand, he replied by saying he did not have them any more. The only email he had saved was the latest one posted in this group thread.

Meanwhile, I had contacted Bob's brother Bill, and asked how Vincent was doing. Bill replied back in an email, saying Bob was OK, and why did I ask? I explained (without mentioning anybody's name) of my findings, which was why I asked if Bob was OK, as I was concerned for him. Bill ended up getting in contact with Bob and Bob was able to work out for himself who it was that sent that post, to which he sent me most of the correspondance (around 24 emails in total), in order to explain to me his side of the story. What I read shocked me to the very core.

You will remember that Bob used to be a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints (otherwise known as the Mormon church). At the time he joined Flickr, Bob was still very new in his faith, and showed a keen interest in learning not only what the church taught, but what the opinion of other Christians were. JJ, upon hearing that Bob was a Mormon, had begun to criticize Bob's new found belief, and starting challenging his faith with emails such as the one dated on 8 December 2008:

“Dear Bob.
Even after two invitations to do so we have not yet been able to read your testimony as to your salvation. This is rather unusual especially seeing that you said that you are a "new convert" as usually a new Christian wants to tell everyone about Jesus and how He saved them from sin.
We feel that the reasons you cannot tell us your testimony, giving all honour and glory to Christ Jesus is either that you are still a Muslim following allah who is not God or if you are in fact a Mormon you cannot give full glory to Jesus as the "jesus" of the Mormons is just a created being and the brother of the devil.
Therefore the Mormon jesus cannot be given any honour and just like a Jehovah`s Witness all you could do is write something giving credit to a sinful man-made organization or forward some material that the sinful elder provides.
In any respect a testimony honouring the True God is not possible from either a Muslim or a Mormon.
Regards.
JJ.

And earlier on 10 October 2008:

“As it seems you cannot answer the question nor write your own replies, this last reply was not written by you, it is pointless to continue debate with you. If God is who he says He is, if Jesus is His Son and the same as God, and the Holy Spirit is also the same as God then you and the Mormon faith stand condemned and you WILL hear the words "I never knew you." when you meet the same Jesus whom you deny and mock.
Either you are correct or God is correct.
Having done all I need to do there will be no need to contact me any more, take it up with God or your elder.”

Bob tried his best to explain why he chose to join the church, often providing JJ with quotes from the official church website (www.lds.org) to try and explain his feelings, (again, pointing out that English is his second language, and was unable to express himself as he would have liked). He was attacked for copying those quotes and for his lack of ability to express what he wanted to say:

“Bob.
You did not write ONE WORD of that nonsense, all you did was simply copy some pre-written rubbish from one of your Mormon cult books or you forwarded our e-mail onto one of your elders to answer it for you. That is insulting to both you and us.
We do not want to hear from any of the elders, they are going to Hell because they knowingly lead people into sin and error, do NOT allow them to drag you down to hell with them.” (3 October 2008)

He was even at one staged accused of getting the missionaries to write all of the emails for him, to which Bob only responded:

“I never turn you to the elder for the disclose because the mormon elders can not use the internet for e mailing and mobile ,they have strict rules.this shows that you are totally lack knowledge of mormonism.” (3 October 2008)

To make matters worse, JJ decided to get another friend to help him with the bible-bashing. A man named SS then proceeded to send Vincent nasty emails, such as:

“now you are Jesus?

That is blasphemy in either your phony religion or in one that does believe in Jesus as savior.

Go to hell.”

SS (13 October 2008)

And:

“I have attacked your blasphemous false religion, not you personally. Get a life, fool.”
(14 October 2008)

Meanwhile, all of this was starting to get to Bob, and he was starting to doubt whether or not the things he had a testimony of were true, so he asked these people fervently for help:

“If you think I am wrong please show where I am wrong and please preach to me! You should convince me rather than condemning me....” (3 October 2008)

But instead of preaching to him, like he so fervently asked, the taunts and bullying continued, escalating from mocking his beliefs, to making fun of his English and general name-calling:

“Even though your miniscule intellect is just the same at least your spelling ability is slightly better.
My God has defeated your "god" and you are the fool for following the loser, you will go to hell because of your stupidity so get used to it.” - JJ, 16 Feb 2009

“I've been watching you. Why don't you just climb down a manhole and pull the cover in after you?
SS (17 Feb 2009)

And JJ's latest insult:

“And you are just a silly sinful spoilt little squinty-eyed brat, go and play in your piles of shit and fish guts.
Screw you, you can all go to hell.
This will be the last message I will see from you as we have asked the mail server to delete any further shit from you and to bounce back your crap.
Don`t eat too many dogs. Nice knowing you, loser. We are turning you over to Satan as the Scripture says to do.
When you learn to speak properly and communicate effectively with people who are intelligent way above your comprehension then we may show you some courtesy, an attribute you clearly do not possess,
You are silly and boring, we had fun letting you make a fool of yourself but now it is boring. Go and kiss your buffalo.” (17 Feb 2009)

When all of these pressures got too much for Bob, he obviously snapped and, as you can see, without thinking, wrote that email back in response to these taunts and insults.

Now – before ANY of you make any further judgements on Bob's actions, I must ask you..... CAN YOU BLAME HIM?! Is it any wonder that he chose to close down his account on his own accord, because of JJ's and SS's actions?! Can anybody in this group cast the first stone at Bob for writing this email to JJ, knowing now what had brought him to this stage?... The last thing Bob needed to become was a victim of cyber bullying, which is essentially what JJ and SS have done. Not only that, Bob's faith in God has been shaken so much because of these two people's actions that he no longer trusts or believes in God, and doesn't know whether to have a faith in anyone or anything now.

So congratulations, JJ. You have successfully turned someone away from believing and worshipping in God. Things might have turned out better for you, had you had kept all of your correspondance with Vincent to back your side up, but I'm afraid you didn't wish to share it anyway, because you knew all along that you really had nothing against Bob to convict him. And although I cannot prove it now, I know those other “aliases” had to have been created by you somehow. This I will discover in time.

Congratulations, SS. You have successfully brought someone down to the level where they have very little or no self-esteem left at all.

I hope you are both really proud of yourselves.

As far as my future with the Christianity Discussion Group is concerned: I cannot say this about the majority of the members who have joined (many of you have since become good friends of mine), but for the very few of you who enjoy spreading contention in our discussion threads and mocking other Christians for their beliefs, I have to say that I can no longer be a part of such a group that can tolerate such behaviour. It is for this reason, apart from the main reason that I have discussed in this thread, that I am now quitting the Christianity Group. Please do no try and invite me back, as I will only ignore your requests.

I hope that one day peace can be restored to this group.

Goodbye.

From was_bedeutet_jemanden

P.S. What I find ironic about the whole sad story is that I, myself, am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ, a Mormon. I had thought that would have been evident by looking through my photostream. Why did you treat me with the upmost decency JJ, when you couldn't have done the same to someone else who was of the same faith as me?....





Cyber-bullying is not on. If you feel you have been a victim of cyber-bullying, either on Flickr or an any other website, you CAN do something about it! Talk to the admins, block the person who is cyber-bullying you, do whatever it takes to stop it, because you have a right to surf the net without having these sort of people hurting you...

you can go no no no drugs but they may not listen

in addition to Raymond Teodo a.k.a. was_bedeutet_jemanden about drug addiction

i think it is really hard for someone to fully understand drug addiction until you have been through or been around people that have gone through it.. firstly not all drug are technically addictive, there is however a chemical that is released in the brain when drugs are injested can be addictive not everyone gets addicted. The best is education young, as young as 10, contravercial i know but, kids are going to school and being exposed to marijuana before they even know or understand what it is, kids in my school where doing harder drugs at 14.. at that age they have no concept of the affects of these drugs, but they still know right from wrong, so you as a parent can explain to them in not so much detail that as they grow up they will be exposed to people that do drugs, explain that it is illegal, it kills brain cells, and can change them in not nice ways, you can loose friends, and you might not be able to stop. At 10 - 11 kids realise these arn't good things,as they get older things seem less important, with girls esspecially you may find they do drugs to spite you as they get older a form of rebelion. If you find out your child is doing drugs, this goes for everyone if a loved one is caught up in it, You can't give them altimatums, Or be hard on them, state your dissaproval, but let them know your there for them anyway, the last thing you want is them not telling you when something is wrong, And as hard as it may be to see your child or loved one going through these experiences, it is their experience sometimes they have to learn lessons the hard way, you can only make it as easy and pain free as possible. Be availible to talk to so if you can see something going seriously wronglike massive weightloss, needle marks ect, you can take things further, and encourage them to get help,maybe someone to talk to.. some of the time it is a phsycological thing that they're trying to escape from. Another thing to be wary of people on drugs tend to attract others, some not so friendly and it does tend to create a dependancy on a partner which can create some very unhealthy relationships. Soo you do need to watch for signs of that as well, and funny enough i'd give the same advice for your child avoiding bad relationship. education early, support always, let them know you are always on their side, and the most important make sure they know they are worth it,they are a good person that deserves good things, self value has allot to do with drugs and bad relationship, if they respect themselves and their bodies they could be lucky to avoid any of this.. But if they do fall into this hole with love support they will find their way out and be wiser and maturer for it and on other side be a bigger person.

Loosing Time

Why rush? Why does everyone have to move at warp speed? What honestly is the rush? it causes more mistakes and really doesn't help anyone, everyone seems so concerned with the future, making the time on earth worth something that we are failing to realise for the most part we have a long long time here. A year takes forever 80 of them is huge.. plan, fine. Take risks, have fun, but don't be stupid with it, you may end up hurting yourself, or others around you because you have jumped into something, because of your desires for your future and made something exist that was never really there, or more simply your scared of what there is to come and you think having someone by your side will help. It doesn't, time happens anyway, good and bad things will still happen, but using time as an excuse to waste it and jump through hoops for something that isn't worth it.. is worthless, and you'll miss out on the pleasure of being alive... The pleasure of being human..

Desire vs. Fear

Doing something because you want to, not because you fear.

Recently I was traveling around my country and I met an interesting battle that occurs within me a lot of times. There are times when I want to do something, but then I figure out that I have a fear for the results and I do not do it. But life is too short to fear and fear simply cuts us off from our ties with the Universe. Imagine that you hear the whisper of the Universe telling you that this person is your soul mate and you wish to talk to him, but you stop because you fear that it might not be true and you end up not knowing which one is it. I vote, that it probably was your/mine soul mate, but now we will know neither if it is true or not. And what worst might happen if it is not your soul mate? You learn a lesson. Isn't that great?! So I offer you to do this: if you want to do something, but decide not to do it because you feel a fear for something, forget the fear! And just do it. Life is a lesson in itself. Let us swim in it with joy and exploration.

Love,
Rokas Leonavicius

a thought in rhyme

I fear what may never happen,
I fear what i can not see,
I fear what i can't control,
I fear what may never be,

I hold my fear with two hands
to never let it go
in hope that times will vanquish it
or at the very least let it erode

but time so far is not a friend
it passes with little thought
so muched i have missed because of fear
i'm missing what i havn't got

time for regrets is long passed
time to hold my power close
time to ignore the fear and hold my own
take advantanges from the life i chose

Let the idiots know they're idiots

I am a living contradiction, I believe in harmony but am yet to find the inner harmony within myself, I hate lying, but lie to so many by not telling them what I think, the truth.. It causes me anger, but I hate being angry. I have listened to the whining of others, and agreed when i didn't agree for the sake of peace for far to long, it wears you down and tires you out, eventually you want to take it out of the world and ask yourself how are people so stupid? They can't see the inner workings of thier actions. For the most part I shut my mouth 'cause it's none of my business, I then get angry watching the people involved not saying what they think, letting this person go with the mis-conception that everyone is okay with the path they have chosen. Their patterns continue through life believing they're a saint, poeple just care to much to expose their demons and stand up to emotional blackmail. But why do i care? it doesn't affect me, i have my family with a mother i stood upto my whole life and have finally come to the conclusion that she will never except the person she really is, she will never except fault. I have a brother that has simular personality traits as my mother, he is always right, but will except fault and excepts who he is, my dad is my closest in the family we understand each other and value each others opinions, and will except the others opinions and take them on board. He is who i have the most honest relationship with. But never do i let any one of my family members or friends make a stupid action without my imput, and sometimes my opinion may not be validated, but if they are, it at least gives another point of view instead of all the yes men that people surround themselves with, to make them feel better about the choice they made. So again why can't people just be honest? let the idiots know they're idiots, tell them what you think, voice your opinions, speak up, people need to learn its not okay to be ignorant. Its not okay to be an idiot.

Breathing to Balance Energy

In this fast-paced world it is no wonder we sometimes feel fatigued long before the day is done. It is important that we keep our energy levels up in order to maintain optimal health. Other times we get so wound up it is difficult to fall asleep. Here are some techniques to help you to keep your energy levels in balance.

Breathing and Visualization for Energy Restoration

This energy restoration exercise is quite simple. It can be done anywhere and only takes about two and one-half minutes to complete. While performing this exercise keep your jaws closed and each hand clenched lightly into a fist. With each inhale think to yourself that each breath is bringing a surge of energy and power that you are storing within you. Feel this happening.


1. Sit erect but relaxed(not tense) or stand with your weight balanced evenly on both feet.

2. Take a deep breath in through your nose while counting slowly and evenly to five.

3. In a relaxed state, slowly let the air out of your lungs through your nose to a count of ten.

4. Repeat this ten times consecutively.

Within 15-20 minutes after completing this exercise you will notice a distinct rise in your energy level. This increase should last for several hours. You may do this exercise 4-5 times daily, as needed. By practicing it at least once each day you will gradually build up your energy supply. This will strengthen your system, giving you greater resistance to infection and disease.

If you are a person who visualizes well, you will find this next exercise to be very effective and refreshing.

1. Sit erect yet relaxed with your feet touching and your hands clasped loosely in your lap.

2. In your mind, visualize the sun as a great flaming orb of pure energy.

3.Now, mentally lift your consciousness away from your body and go "in spirit" to the sun. Enter into its aura and proceed into the body of the sun, uniting with it. Have no fear. You are a child of the sun/light and you are simply returning to your rightful home. Let the sun's tremendous warm, loving energy flow through your entire being. Feel it strengthening and invigorating you.

4. After one minute return to your body and go on with your daily tasks.

You will notice immediate refreshment and stimulation from this exercise. After a few hours, look back on the way the exercise benefited you. You should notice that you have been able to accomplish more work with much less fatigue than you would normally experience.

If you feel you are having a "bad day" and are irritable, angry or depressed, use the following exercise to counterbalance your negativity.

1. Sit in a straight-backed chair located in a place where no one will disturb you. Take three deep breaths to relax yourself.

2. Separate your feet, keeping them flat on the floor. Sit erect, keeping the spine straight. Allow your hands to rest loosely in your lap or on your knees without touching each other. Touch the thumb, index and middle finger of each hand together in triangle fashion.

3. Take a deep breath. Hold it for a count of seven, then release it.

4. Wait a few seconds and repeat step # 3.

5. Do this seven times, then get up and go on about your day.

While our bodies need to maintain an energetic state, that state needs to be in balance. Having too much positive energy can feel just as uncomfortable as having too much negative energy. To counterbalance excess positive energy, begin as in the previous exercise.

1. Sit erect and take three deep breaths to relax.

2. This time, your feet should be flat on the floor, but touching each other. Hands should be held in front of the body at chest level, thumb touching thumb and each finger touching the tip of the corresponding finger on the other hand. Close your eyes and take a deep breath.

3. Slowly exhale all the air out of your lungs. When all the air has been exhaled, count slowly to five.

4. Now breathe in and out slowly and regularly for 5-6 breaths until you are relaxed again.

5. Repeat steps 3 and 4 five times. Then, return to your normal breathing pattern and put the exercise out of your mind.

This exercise, if done at the first sign of cold symptoms, and repeated once hourly for three hours will decrease the severity of the cold and quite possibly eliminate it entirely.

The good news is that, should you use the wrong exercise, you can just follow it with the other to restore balance. Very soon you will come to know and understand yourself and become aware of which exercise will be helpful for which types of problems and emotions.

Using Colors to Aid Healing

Color Healing

Colors affect our moods and our physical bodies. Mankind has known this for a very long time. Think of the expressions we use. When we are down we say we are in a "blue" mood. We say we feel "green" with envy or "red" with rage. Today I want to share a bit about colors and how they can benefit us emotionally and physically. Though there are many colors, today we will be working with the colors in the rainbow, beginning with red.

Emotionally, red renews enthusiasm, stimulates you and gives you the willpower to carry on. It may also put you in the mood for romance. If you are procrastinating, putting off doing something you dread, wearing red will give you the extra push you need to get going. Red will pick you up when you are feeling down or lack energy. Red is a good color to wear when counseling someone who is facing death. It allows you to help them to see death as the doorway to a new adventure.

Physically, red eliminates the negative and unwanted energies like a cleansing fire. It induces the release of adrenaline into the bloodstream. (Here is it's association with anger.) It eases stiff muscles, especially those in the legs and feet. Red is an especially useful color to wear if you catch colds easily or if you get chilled. It frees the blood-flow and detoxifies.

In the emotional realm, orange governs our "gut feelings". It breaks down barriers subtly and gently. You will find orange helpful in cases of depression, divorce, accidents, rape and mental breakdown. For those experiencing grief and loss orange will help to bring them through the shock. Orange gives you the strength to remove past blockages so you can move forward.

In the physical, orange is healing to the kidneys, lower back, lower intestines, the abdomen and also governs the adrenal glands. Those in need of orange are often unable to absorb the physical and emotional benefits of their lives. Orange will help to ease Bronchitis and Asthma. It will help those with mental disorders and epilepsy. Rheumatism, broken bones and torn ligaments heal faster when aided by orange. It can be applied directly to the muscles and the limbs in physiotherapy.

Yellow is an excellent color to use to combat depression. It is useful to clear away mental cobwebs and negative thinking. Yellow will bring the things you need to look at to the surface and will get you talking, ultimately bringing joy and laughter back into your life. It boosts self-esteem and helps you to release fears and phobias. Yellow decreases desire to be critical. It is also said that yellow increases memory, persuasive abilities and charm.


The solar plexus, pancreas, gall bladder, liver, spleen, stomach/digestive system, skin and nervous system are all affected in a positive way by yellow. A cleansing color, it rids the body of toxins. Yellow can also be used to clear congestion and relieve constipation. It stimulates the lymphatic system, eases hot flashes and helps those with menstral difficulties. It is useful in treating skin rashes and abrasions. In addition to all of this, it offers relief to those suffering from diabetes, rheumatism and anorexia.

If you have issues you need to resolve, green will take you into the past and bring those issues to the surface for you. Then it continues to help by bringing insight that helps to clear up the problem. Green stabilizes, restoring balance and easing the mind. Used in times of relationship difficulties it will cool and calm the emotions, decreasing anxiety. Green is known to be a nerve tonic. Wearing green will also help you to bring things into focus, allowing you to make wise decisions.

Green will aid in the healing of the thymus gland, shoulders, chest, heart and lower lungs. It is a good color to wear for treating shock and fatigue. Green quells nausea and soothes headaches. Those who suffer from clausterphobia should wear green. It will also help to restore stability to anything malignant, calming overstimulated, out-of-control cells. It also helps in healing pituitary gland problems. A good detoxifier, green is effective in healing liver complaints. It also relieves hay fever and head colds.

Blue calms, cools and allows brings rest to the mind and body. It heightens tranquility and patience as it lowers negativity and stress. It helps you combat the fear of going forward, and allays fears in general. It also helps you to understand that you do not get what you do not ask for. Those who need to relax should wear blue or take some time to lay back and gaze at the sky.

The thyroid gland, parathyroid gland, throat, lungs, upper arms and the base of the skull are affected positively by blue. Blue is useful for treating sore throats, ear problems, speech and vocal problems and childrens ailments such as teething. In the elderly, it is useful in treating incontinence. It is a comfort to the terminally ill and is helpful in reducing inflammations and fevers.

Indigo is the color of knowing. It reveals the root of your emotional problems and increases stability, rational thought and actions. The color of spiritual opening, it prepares you for psychic and spiritual experiences. Indigo cleanses and clears away addictive emotional ties. It reveals hidden fears and helps to heal painful memories. Indigo decreases impulsiveness. This is a good color for those suffering from any type of abuse or addiction issues.

Physically, indigo is connected to the skeletal structure, especially the spine. It also relates to the lower brain, the pituitary gland, the eyes and the sinuses. Known as the most powerful painkiller in the spectrum, indigo is also an excellent purifier. It can clear up bacteria and environmental pollutants and toxins. Indigo lowers high blood pressure and can be used to treat an overactive thyroid. Migraines, sciatica, inflammations, eczema and respiratory problems all respond to indigo.It is good for kidney problems, sinus problems and insomnia. It helps with controlling diarrhea as well. Tumors, growths, etc. can be dispersed with indigo.

Emotionally, violet brings relief and improvement to those suffering from any type of mental illness. In regression work violet is useful to acknowledge your inner child or your inner child from past lives so past issues can be resolved. Violet is a bridge to the higher consciousness and also aids those who wish to improve their psychic abilities. It increases spiritual awareness.

Violet represents the crown chakra and influences the brain, pineal gland and the scalp. This is a powerful color. It has been found that when using violet light in healing, it should not be shown onto the face, but should instead be applied to the back of the head. Violet should be used sparingly. Considered a "heavy" color, an overload of violet can be depressing.The antidote for violet overload is gold.

Violet light has been found to be useful in curing newborns of jaundice. Violet is also useful in treating infertility and menstral pain. It can help with neuralgia pain, inflamed nerves, and can also be used to treat eye complaints. It activates the pineal gland and relaxes muscles, including the heart. Violet helps head related problems including headaches, frazzled nerves, scalp conditions, shingles, concussions and all brain-related problems.

There are many ways to use colors to bring healing. You can wear it, use it in your decor, use visualization techniques, etc. Chromotherapy (using colored lights) is a very effective way to heal using color. I would like to close with some information to help you to use Chromotherapy to heal.

Blue and red colors are seen as the two extremes with yellow representing the midpoint. A professional will analyze the patient, examining them to ascertain which color he/she lacks. The deficiency is determined by observing the color of the eyeballs, nails, urine and excrement. In cases of the lack of red the eyes and nails will be bluish, and the urine and excrement white or bluish. If there is a deficiency of the blue color, the eyes and nails will be reddish and urine and excrement yellowish or red.

If you wish to try using colored light to heal yourself, here are a few tips you may find helpful. To begin, you should lie down or sit on a chair with the lamp directed towards you. You should limit exposure time to ten minutes per session. If a treatment is overdone you will become agitated and uncomfortable. If this happens, flood yourself with green light for a few minutes. This will neutralize, dilute and clear the previous application of color. Keep in mind that certain colors have certain limitations. Never apply red if you have a heart condition. As previously mentioned, never apply violet light to the face. Apply it only to the back of the head. Treat conditions that affect the whole body such as colds and flu by flooding the entire body with light. Treat specific areas by pinpointing and focusing the color on the affected area only.

The effect of various colors on the body and their healing qualities are as follows:

Red:
Red stimulates arterial blood and brings warmth to cool extremities. Used as a general tonic, it is very valuable in the treatment of diseases like low blood pressure, rheumatism, paralysis, anemia and advanced cases of tuberculosis.

Orange:
Orange is beneficial in the treatment of hernia and appendicitis, kidney and gallstones. It is also used to stimulate the milk producing action of breasts after childbirth.

Yellow:
Yellow is a laxative and diuretic. It stimulates the brain, the liver and the spleen. It is also effective in the treatment of diabetes, indigestion, kidney and liver disorders, constipation, eye and throat infections, syphilis and impotence.

Green:
Green is considered a harmonious color. It is a mild sedative. It is useful in the treatment of nervous conditions, hay fever, ulcers, flu, malaria, colds, sexual disorders and cancer. It preserves and strengthens eyesight. It is also helpful in the treatment of inflammatory conditions.

Blue:
Cool, soothing and calming, blue alleviates pain, reduces bleeding and heals burns. It is beneficial in the treatment of dysentery, colic, asthma, respiratory disorders, high blood pressure and skin abrasions.

Indigo:
Indigo combines the blood-warming red and the cooling antiseptic blue. It is a wonderful stimulant without being an irritant. It is beneficial in the treatment of advanced stages of constipation, hydrocle, leucorrhoea, many disorders of the stomach and womb, cataract, migraine and skin disorders. It exerts a soothing effect on the eyes, ears and the nervous system.

Violet:
Violet is beneficial in the treatment of nervous and emotional disturbances, arthritis, acute cases of consumption and insomnia.

Have no expectations

The more you expect, the more you desire. The more you desire, the more you long for. The more you long for the more you want it. If perhaps nothing will happen, then these things will lead to more disappointment.

So expect nothing and you will have no disappointment.

Do not demand of others for what you can do yourself

Sometime in your life you would "relegate" responsibilities to others so that you do not have to do it. That is not relegating that is shirking responsibilities. If you can do it yourself with nno fuss why not do it and be done with it.

Give responsibilities to others only because you feel you have nothing to bring to the table or they can do it better than you can. If they can achieve it but won't don't make demand for them to do it either or they will just feel pressured and leave you alone.

If someone make demand on you when you do not have to do it, do you not feel as pressured. So when giving responsibilities to others do it with a light heart and no expectations so that you will not be hurt by it nor other feel pressured by it.

Falling toward the sky

Falling toward the sky
An angel spread its wings
It takes it harp out and began to sing
"Let tell only truth and say no more lies
So that all the people may began to smile"
But the people do not take heed
And so the lies takes its seed
Thus the angel continues its path in to the sky
Fluttering its golden wing
It continue to sing
"Let there be peace on Earth
And heal all harm and hurts"
But the people did not see the awe
And merely continue with their wars
So the angel shrug and continues to fall in to the sky.

Open your eyes, heart and mind, and perhaps a miracle you will see

True to one self

Do you ever feel like no one really knows who you are, not that you hide it or pretend to be someone your not, although we are all guilty of that even if only ocassionally .. its more so about editing the person you are on a level so people think they can understand you, 'cause that makes them feel comfortable. Most people are lucky enough to have friends that they can let your hair down with and truly be themselves, but you still can't let them into your head, to let them know what you are truly feeling maybe that you have such dark thoughts, that you refuse to burden them with that, or are even embarrassed to feel that way, or you have trust issues with the people in your life, so you feel anytime you open up to someone, it will some day be used against you. I have these feeling, for anothe reason, i have been through allot and relied allot on the friends and family around me, i want to be strong in myself and not need the help, and i don't want them to think i need help, i don't want to need the help. .. I am a liar.. i am not giving people me, i am giving them the me that they can handle..

Alone in the Dark

I was making my way through the darkness when I saw a light
I then choose to chase it and try to grasp it will all my might
But the light flicker and flitter and flys from my hand
Living me again alone in this darken land.
For quite a while time seems to have passed by
And then all of a sudden the light came back in front of my eyes
But it has been so long that my eyes have adjusted
That right now I think I prefer the darkness.

-Metha Metharom

This is a poem I wrote a long time ago about finding my own light and not needing anyone else to traverse my own darkness.

The recipie to achieving greatness...

Loneliness

The following is a poem I found while trying to search for an appropriate quote for this image. You can find some of the author's other works by visiting http://www.poetry.com/Publications/display.asp?ID=P0002523&BN=700&PN=1


Lend Me a Shoulder to Cry On
By Nina B. Doughty

Lend me a shoulder to cry on
When life is dark and drear
I need your strength to rely on
I need your listening ear
Fate isn't alwys too gentle
And nobody seems to care
Let me borrow your shoulder to cry on
When I'm drowning in despair.

Lightening your work load - a message on stress

Always respect your limitations. Acknowledge when things are getting too much that you can't handle it, or if they are not pushing you to the best of your ability. Having too much stress is not healthy, but having too little doesn't help you grow. Make sure you find that balance in your life, and always strive to maintain that balance.

Listening to others

Have your own opinion by all means but without opposition in belief or thoughts we can not strengthen our ideals or thoughts.

Knowledge and wisdom comes from what we learn, so to do others gain from the same source. Each and everyone of us have different views due to the different life we live.

Though we can not live their life, by listening to them we can gain a glimpse of what they went through, by doing so we gain understanding. Understanding of people in general, understanding of knowledge, and beliefs, understanding of who they are, and by reasoning by who we are.

So listen well to others, though they do not have the same view thus wisdom as we do. We could gain a better understanding of our own.

Evaluating yourself

It is quite popular and common to evaluate yourself during the end of year. Because the end of the year means a new period will come upon us and we can then set goals to improve or learn new things.

But I ask why do it only on that day, why not do this more often. So that we continuously grow in ourself, our beliefs, and our determination. Evaluating yourself has the effect of presenting to you flaws and perfection you see within yourself and your actions, it also present us with goals of what to do next with our life. So instead of gaining wisdom once per year which is very limiting, why not do it more often and you will grow continuously faster and evolve your mind.

Challenging yourself

When we overcome a challenge we grow in our strength and determination, as well as in term of wisdom and knowledge.

So when life exist without challenge we stagnate and sometime regress due to unused gifts and abilities.

Challenge yourself once in a while, to do new things, to achieve new goals and perhaps we can stay on par with who we are and even better yet improve ourselves even more.

emotional well being - recent revelations cont..

Jealosy ultimately is not worth it, what is it really? A sick feeling at the bottom of your stomach that makes you angry, it makes you hate. And you waste so much time doing it. Time that could be better spent saving to buy that house instead of wishing you were renting it. If you can look at someone in the face and say congratulation, good for you, instead of being jealous it gives you the power, and whatever reaction they’re trying to get out of you will be wasted. With that brings happiness

All of a sudden you realise you have reached the next maturity level in your life without being modest of course.

So you come back some what, to start this story again from a more positive perspective, when you realize what you failed to realize or at the very least failed to notice. What you thought you wanted at this point in time, you don’t really want, you still ultimately want, what you originally wanted and it has taken this five thousand odd words to realize this, the things you thought you wanted were more so, out of spite or jealousy, and what you thought you wanted, didn’t come from the place in you, it should have come from. You still have your priorities but there is no reason you can’t have them and still have things for yourself, really you can’t give your best to others with out doing the best for yourself, there will be sacrifices along the way, if you’re willing to make these sacrifices and still be happy about it, then you know you are making a move in the right direction.

bitch book part 2 - the mother inlaw

You are old enough to have learnt from your mistakes and since you have made allot of mistakes you’d think you would act like your age, stop running into to things blindly. You have more to think about than yourself and I think that has been your problem. You put you, first ahead of your kids and your priorities. At the moment you are babying someone that needs to learn life, instead of being given everything on a platter. You push push push eventually you’ll push them to far, and you’ll be back where you started, if not worse because you’ve sacrificed allot for nothing. Have you ever thought your pushing, pushes people into something they don't therefor you only think thats what they want or feel and no one ever truley feels that way about you. Start realising whatever happened in the past is the past, you only have two daughters, and they are your family. As the mother it is your position to forgive and keep the family together and much of your personality reminds me of a immature teenager. "oh she did this to me" "i'm not talking to you" "omg he likes me" "he hasn't rung me tonight"...

You are all about hate, and revenge and bitterness. The spite you showed towards the break up of your daughters marriage was disgusting, you pretend to be so lovely, its only mildly disguising your black soul. To think that the break up of your relationship with her revolved around jealousy, and then to say you are happy she was hurt she deserved “pay back”, harbouring feelings of resentment creates holes that you will never be able to fill. And then to try and pollute others minds with your prejeduce garbage is just offensive. You can have your one sided argument for the rest of your life cause I am not biting.

You are obsessed with idea of love with out truly being able to commit to it. I don’t think you will ever fully be able to embrace love because you have never truly felt it to other men or your family. You think it’s your right to be loved not a privelidge.

Taking time for quiet reflection...

Its important to be different

I think the biggest mistake in life is not to be honest to yourself.. To hide beneath a veil pretending to be someone else... Celebrate the person you are.. We are who we are for a reason.. Entirly cliche i know... But its true i spent a long time trying to be the person i thought i should be instead of the person i am.. Then i started to miss the person i used to be, now i can't let go of my inhibitons to be that person again so now i feel i am missing out on something.. So go with the flow... Be who you are a celebrate the fact your different... Use your own mind...

Same topic alternate variant, people need to be aware who they are, really start to analize themselves. Be honest on why they do the things they do? Why they say or don't say the things they think? what is the underlying reason for their thoughts ? Why they might follow the alpha dominant society? What causes you to follow similar patterns? Fall into the same ruts? Why do get lazy? Depressed? you need to understand these things in yourself then you can begin to understand them in others.

I do believe some people are incappable of ever veiwing themselves on this scale. So don't get disheartend. I thought people learn from their mistakes as i have but this is not true in many cases. These people lead a shallow life, full of un confidence. i used to get frustrated with this but its a burden that i dont need. its not our problem to make them aware of it, just try not to get involved in it.

anyway as i have lost the initial point i was trying to make i will leave you with that...

For those seeking love..

I know everyone out there, will have a friend that is unlucky in love you may even know someone who is always in different relationships, and that person seems to always fall into the same type of relationship, why is that? i think that at some point in time the relationship is less important than the love they are seeking, the intense emotion that is the initial attration. The vipers that feed on these vulnerable people are always the same, luring their prey its about the game instead of the person, the equation of these two types of people tends to be poison to each other, and therefor extreamly unhealthy. love for more and more people is becoming an addiction. To be complacent in love... well its just to easy...

About Goal Setting...

emotional well being- recent revelations

Allot of people have seen you as confident but you hid your un confidence by acting over confident. You hid allot of things by over compensating for them. But it is time to throw up the veils on this life, put you on show, because it is the you that you love and it is the you that others love they just don’t know it yet. You have come to this epiphany, and finally it is not the world that controls you and you can’t control the world or the people in it, but you own your part of it and you can control that, and from now on you will.


You write the last paragraph and realise you are trying to convince yourself more than anything. You are over it, no regrets you look to the future and put all the pettiness out of your thoughts at least for today. You are better than that, your royal snootiness, and the last thing you want is the insecurities of others impacting on what you want for yourself.

Time out for a second, when you evaluate your own jealousy, what does it really come down too. Woman more so than men thrive on jealousy, they feed on it, whether it be the ammunition against another or the ignition for you to push your life into its direction, even if it’s what you want or not. I think it blinds us, as well as holds us back, for example; you see your friends in a relationship, and you want to be in one, then you feel like you have fallen in love so much that you can’t go to the college you want and settle for a meaningless job at a bank, and eventually that relationship goes sour because, neither of you ever really had the same interest or direction and then you have used up three years for what? So the lesson learnt is set your own goals, stick to them as much as possible, face what ever comes your way with open arms, and hopefully one day you’ll have nothing to be jealous about.

Better than me

When I see others who I think are better than me, I see it as a challenge that I must overcome.

If they are indeed better than me then obviously I must lack something they have.

So therefore I must be better than them to overcome whatever weakness I may have had.

Why stop at being as good as they are, why not be even better than they are in your own eyes.

So if they are better than you, you have no choice but to be a better you.